06 Jul Why We Must Never Overlook Grief
What is grief?
Grief is a really strong emotion. One that arrives like thunder, pulling the carpet under our feet. A strong blow of grief can completely knock down the strongest of minds before they even realize it. Grief is a subtle sense is an extreme emotion that is marked by intense suffering, agony, doleful sensations and distress. In most instances, grief surfaces with the loss of a loved one. Bereavement is the root cause of grief. All of us experience grief at one point or the other. But how we deal with it is the area of importance. We’ve to accept the way the cookie crumbles.
Grief usually manifests when what’s lost is usually something the person in question has a deep emotional involvement in. Knowing the fact that what has been lost cannot be gotten back is the primary cause of the intense suffering. Of course, there are other examples like the loss of a dream career, a relationship, or a friendship, that can lead to the same results. Grief can actually manifest itself in different ways. While sadness is the most common, guilt occurs in a situation where the person feels responsible for the loss. All of this turmoil can lead to despair, anxiety, and even anger.
How to identify if you require Grief Management?
- If you still feel helpless and completely shattered even after a long time since the tragic event took place.
- If you experience an increased sense of irritability and find yourself lashing out at others for the smallest of things.
- If you find yourself brooding too much in the sorrow of the situation.
- If after the event, you have acquired a dark and highly negative view of the world and life in itself.
- If you’ve become bitter and find yourself falling prey to the sour grapes syndrome easily.
- If you’re unable to be positive or express any form of happiness or joy long after the event that caused the grief took place.
- If you’re unable to sleep properly and have recurring nightmares.
- If fear seems to control your life entirely, making you feel overwhelmed with anxiety.
- If you fall into depression.
- If you suddenly feel numb and insensitive in an emotional context to events happening around you.
- If you blame yourself personally for what naturally happened.
Why should you consult a therapist for Grief Management?
Grief is something we all go through at one point or the other. But the power and speed with which it arrives can often be too much for many to handle. That is why, we are temporarily rendered helpless and weak due to grief. Sometimes the pain of the loss seems to unabated. A therapist or help can make you explore and unravel the range of emotions you might be going through. They and their experience can help you acknowledge and process the loss.
We needn’t go through such traumatic experiences all alone. Talking to a therapist can be such a wonderful thing. Simply having a conversation to share what we’re going through really does reduce the weight we’re carrying on our shoulders, or in this case, our heart.
Moreover, a therapist is one who is experienced and has deep knowledge in this area, and knows exactly how to help a person going through it. This is vital because a person in grief is a person who is at their weakest and most vulnerable state. This is also the reason why if you feel you’re suffering from the symptoms of prolonged grief, you must not hesitate to get help. A therapist can also help you find the silver lining in the dark cloud. It’s all for a better tomorrow. Don’t worry. There is always light waiting for you at the end of a dark tunnel. They can help you to take your emotions in your stride.
Little by little we can let go of the Loss, but never of Love!